Boyfriend, Best Friend & a Whole Lot of MESS

Dear Dee:
I am 14 and have an amazing boyfriend, ,we are best friends and I really do love him.
Normally when I date a guy, I cheat and with him I don't. We have tried things but nothing felt right when we attempted to do sexual things.
My other best friend is a girl and we are so much alike. she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen and I think i am in love with her, too. One night we were watching a movie and we were hugging because it was scary and all of a sudden we kissed.

We both pulled away but then her lips came crashing down on mine again things were moving really quickly and before I knew it things got a little out of hand. We stopped and laughed at what had happened but it felt right and I felt the fire and passion all over my body. does this mean I am lesbian or bi or something or does that often happen with the two hottest girls in the school?

No this doesn't mean you are a lesbian or bisexual. But what it does mean is you are foolish, irresponsible and have absolutely no idea what a real relationship is! You actually don't have a problem, at 15, telling someone you always cheat on your boyfriends and that you haven't cheated on your current one -- except that you have ... with your best friend, who happens to be a girl!

Wake up and realize what you're doing to yourself, your reputation and your future. Is this what you want to be known for? Right now, this is what I see: a girl who can't seem to take a relationship seriously -- the girl who can't keep her hormones in check -- the girl who is more interested in indulging every single sexual urge at the age of 15, rather than fashioning her own character and figuring out what's real and worth while in her life -- the girl who is, at a very young age making adult decisions without even thinking of the consequences to herself, her body and her character. It is very, very sad.

Great. You're popular. And just like most popular kids, you're not realizing the responsibility that comes with being looked up to by others. You're figuring you can get away with treating people any way you want because so far, people have let you. But that's not life honey! It's not real and it will end.

Please, take a step back. Get yourself figured out and straightened out. There isn't anything wrong with being in a relationship IF you know how to handle it and respect it. And clearly, you do not. You can't even keep the lines between friendship and romantic relationships clear. You've blurred them all and are walking into some very dangerous waters.

Realize what you are worth. Realize you are more than what you wrote above. And if you don't see that for yourself, you need to do some soul searching and some get some help from an adult you trust.