Friend's Hateful Behavior Has Her Guessing

Dear Dee:
What should I do ... I have a friend that is hating me right now! So, what should I do?

There are several things that could be going on right now -- and since I don't know the context in which she's 'hating' on you, it's hard for me to say, but here's a few suggestions.

--Sometimes people just need space. So maybe your friend needs some time alone to get things straight in her head. It really could be as simple as that. It might be a good idea for you to step back and let her breathe a little. Be there if she needs you, but give her some room.

-- Your friend could be going through something that's really rocking her world. Have you noticed any significant changes recently? Home life? Grades? Etc? Maybe she doesn't know how to deal with what's going on so she's taking it out on you. Try to be extra-observant and see if there's something 'different' going on. Her hateful attitude right now, could be a direct reflection of a situation in her life that's bothering her.

-- Have you two had a fight recently? Do you have something you need to make right with her? Granted, it takes two to fight, but if you want your friendship to be repaired, you might have to take the first step in fixing it. Think through your past conversations, etc. Might you have offended her without knowing it? Sometimes, we hurt people and don't even realize it.

-- Lastly, do you think you two could have outgrown your friendship? Sorry to say, it does happen. There are some friendships that last forever, but others are only for a certain time in our life. People change and grow apart. Is it time for you two to call it quits?

This is the last resort, and it's not a ticket for you to give up on your friend, but if she continues to treat you hateful and you can't figure out why -- and she won't tell you -- then it might be best to distance yourself from her. Priorities change. People change. And in turn, friendships change.

Here's to hoping this is just a phase in your friendship. If you can get through it, I am sure your relationship will be stronger for it. Hang in there.