Ohio Boyfriend & A Memphis Crush

Dear Dee:
First off, I love your blog!

My problem is, I recently moved to Ohio from Tennessee, where I have lived in for so long.

Currently, I have a boyfriend whom I like a lot, but school is out in like 2 weeks and I'm going back to Memphis for the whole summer. There's this guy I really liked when I was down there and still like today.

I'm thinking I should break up with my current boyfriend while I am in Memphis because I'm afraid something might happen with me and the other guy and I wouldn't want to cheat on my boyfriend.

Is that OK to do? I've talked and talked about it to my best friends and they both gave me 2 different answers. I'm stuck. Please help!!!

If your plan is to break up with your boyfriend now, go and fool around with this guy in Memphis, then come back and reconnect with your ex in Ohio, then to say the least, that seems pretty trashy.

If you're breaking up with the Ohio boy just because you don't want to have any ties while you're out in Memphis and don't really know if you'll get back with him later, then that's fine.

Look, you either like your boyfriend enough to stay 'faithful' to him when you're in Memphis, or you don't. And it kind of sounds like you don't. And that's fine! You're young, you're allowed to have several boyfriends and you're also allowed to have times when you' don't actually have to have a boyfriend!

Now if you break up with your him, take into account you will probably be hurting him and there's a possibility you two won't be on speaking terms when you get back. So don't make your decision lightly. The fact you know you could date this guy back in Memphis (because it doesn't sound like you'd tell him 'no') seems to suggest you really should break up before leaving -- as cheating isn't the way to go.

Let me just say this: Regardless of how old you are, there are always temptations. And in relationships, even the most happiest couples think of a former flame, or a guy/girl he/she used to like or even still crushes on a little. But the difference is, knowing when it's OK to act on such things and knowing when what you have, is worth more than taking chances on a fling or in this case, a summer romance.

Is your boyfriend who you want to be with? Do you want to stay with him over the summer? If so, then keep him around and then, when you're in Memphis, stay away from this other guy. If you don't want to be with your current flame, then break it off -- regardless of what might happen in Memphis. (BTW, Memphis is one of my favorite places on earth! I'd love to live there some day.)