Cutting: She Only Tried It Once ... OK?

Dear Dee:
If you have a friend you know is cutting, but she promised she never would again, because she just tried it once, should you tell her parents or leave it alone?

Cutting is never OK. Addictions start with someone trying something one time and they end in tragedy when friends are sworn to secrecy. So, yes. I think telling an adult you trust is the right thing to do. We're not talking about keeping a secret that is inconsequential to someone's life. Cutting is dangerous, addicting and can be responsible for life problems beyond repair -- including death.

Get your friend help. Obviously there are things in her life she needs help with if she decided to turn to such a destructive action to deal with them. Do not keep this to yourself. And make sure your friend knows you care about her, are there for her AND will do all you can to protect her -- even if that means pulling in an adult who can help.

For reference, I have hotlines listed on my site. Call someone. The professionals at the other end of the line can give you advice and can tell you where to turn to help your friend. Also, feel free to give her the hotline numbers. The specialists listed are wonderful resources and most give advice anonymously.

Please, be careful.