Unrealistic Crush & Daydreaming Has It's Place

Dear Dee:
I have a crush on a guy but he is 25 years old and he is a dancer in a dance troupe. What should I do to get him to date me? Help me.

OK. Let's be realistic here. I have a crush on Wentworth Miller, but um ... there really isn't a whole lot I can do about it. I am guessing, if you're writing me, you're under the age of 18 so you already have a pretty good idea that a guy who's 25-years-old is ... um ... totally off limits. Not only would he go to jail if you dated, but I can guarantee you the two of you wouldn't have all that much in common.

Hey, having healthy crushes on older guys or even guys who are totally out of reach isn't a bad thing. Dreaming is a fantastic thing and it's in those fantasies were we start to realize what our ambitions and desires really are. There's nothing wrong with that. Heck, I can't criticize you for being boy crazy -- my mother would probably tell you she didn't know how to deal with my boy-craziness (she still doesn't).

Come on. You know there's really no chance to get this guy. But you can also think about what you like in him and remember those qualities as you look for someone more age appropriate.

and promise me ... you'll never, ever stop dreaming.