Watching Ex Self-Destruct By Using Drugs

Dear Dee:
So pretty much, I don't know what do do anymore. My now, ex boyfriend has gotten hooked on several drugs. mainly pot, acid, ecstasy and he's been smoking crack. i told him that i didn't want to have anything to do with him anymore. Did I do the right thing? Do I have to let him hit rock bottom before he can come back up? what do you suggest.

Is this a trick question? Of course you did the right thing. There is no place in your life for a guy who is involved in all of these horrible, impairing, life-threatening drugs.

You're not equipped to help him with his addictions and you're not up to the strain this type of relationship takes on a person. The best thing you can do is encourage this guy to get help. And if you can't do that without getting sucked back into the drama of a relationship, then tell someone who can handle it (like an adult you trust) what's going on with him and ask them to help him.

Be careful. The fact you've been in the vicinity of a person who's into these hardcore drugs bothers me greatly. I worry for your safety and hope you realize how damaging drugs are and how they can ruin or even take away your life.

If you continue to be conflicted about this issue, please get some help. There are several hotlines listed here to help you deal with trauma you've experienced during your relationship with him or afterwards, watching him self-destruct. The trained professionals at the other end of the phone can also reinforce the fact you're doing the right thing by staying away from this guy.

Please be careful. Guard yourself. Don't get pulled back in. Please let me know what happens.