Choosing Between Two Guys

Dear Dee:
Wonder if you have a boyfriend but you like someone else ... what do you do? Also, wonder if the guy you like likes you back but you also like your boyfriend and you can't chose between them.

You obviously know how the dating game is played, so being with one guy but liking another is kind of unacceptable. You've gotta make up your mind. Your being ‘on the fence' about which one you like enough to date is not fair to either guy and is more than likely wrecking havoc on you emotionally.

So, when you can't choose -- don't. You're not married, you're dating. Take a step back from the relationship you're in, put it on hold or even break it off, and just chill. See how things progress while hanging out with both guys in a ‘friendly' format and see if your feelings develop or change. Who knows! You might decide neither is cut out for you and you're all best left as friends.

The point is, when these types of situations arise, it's better to make a break and sort through it, leaving all involved on ‘equal' standing. Don't keep one guy (your boyfriend) hanging on in limbo while you try to sort through your feelings for another. That just makes him feel insecure and insignificant. Do things the right way and don't leave anyone hanging while you figure this out on your own. And don't forget to be honest with these guys. If you're not sure of your feelings, don't lead them on. Be straight. They'll appreciate that.