I Love Him, But He's Not Right for Me

Dear Dee:
What if I had a boyfriend who I loved truly, but deep down I know he's not right for me?

This is one of the saddest things, right? I think most of us have been through this -- especially because we always seem to fall head over heels for the guy who's totally wrong, wrong, wrong.

But this is how it goes. This is how we learn and this is actually how we grow into understanding what we do want/don't want in a boyfriend or girlfriend. And while it is painful and sometimes even agonizing to get over, the feelings we had make us stronger and help us identify what to look for in the future so we don't put ourselves in the same situation again.

So, try your hardest to realize that falling for the bad boy isn't the end of the world. It's just a pit stop in your travels through other relationships to prepare you for the right one. And while your heart may tell you to ignore the feeling that he's not right, don't. Your gut instincts are what should guide you here. Be smart and listen to it. If he's wrong for you, he's wrong for you. Don't count on that changing -- because seriously, the only thing changing to make the relationship work will be YOU. And that is not the answer.