We Talk, But Sure Don't Say Much

Dear Dee:
My boyfriend and I talk on the phone every night for at least an hour and we have been since October. But we never have much to say. I'm starting to worry this means we're not very good together. Am I just being paranoid? And how can I help add more conversation to our phone calls?

You and your boyfriend shouldn't feel obligated to speak to each other for an hour every single night. And the fact you're running out of things to say isn't indicative of your relationship being over -- it just means there's not that much to talk about!

When you first start dating, it's all about talking and getting to know someone. You want to find out who the person is by hearing about life experiences, memories and all that gushy stuff. After awhile, you kinda know all of that you need to know and you're so in tune to what's going on in each other's lives, that there isn't a whole lot to talk about.

And that's OK! When a relationship gets to this comfortable point, don't force conversations. Just enjoy his company, talk when you can, and have fun! Don't stress about it. There would seriously only be a problem if the two of you never could talk about anything that mattered and you felt you had to keep things from him. As long as you feel communication is open between the two of you, then lack of conversation isn't a big deal.

Don't worry. And don't try to force conversation. Sometimes you may be together and not talk. But that doesn't mean you don't enjoy each other's company and won't have a good time. It just means you don't have much to say.