We're In Love, But She Called It Quits

Dear Dee:
My girlfriend and I are in love, but last night she said she didn't think we were going to work out.

I really love her and was close to killing myself because we are no longer together. I want to convince her we are made for each other. What do I do, and how else can I convince her to do more things together?

You're hurting. That's natural, but suicide is a VERY permanent solution to a very temporary problem. It's not the answer. And if you feel like you're going to harm yourself you need to get help right away -- whether it's from an adult you trust or by calling one of our hotlines. Do not use this as a way to get your girlfriend back. It's just not right and it's not the way you want to get her back. (You want her back because she cares about you -- not because she feels sorry for you.)

I know this is really painful for you, but you've got to let her go. If she's going to come back to you, she's got to realize it on her own. Anything you do to try to convince her could easily just drive her further away and come off as obsessive and scary.

Listen, if you're meant to be, it will all work out. So please, give her the space she needs and let her work through her issues. If she comes back, great! If not, then you know it's time to move on. You can't control another person's feelings. But you can control yours and how you react to others when it's contrary to what you want. You can get through this and you can learn from it. Let this show you how strong you really are and how confident you are there is someone out there for you -whether it's this girl or another.