We Were Friends, Now We're ... I Don't Know What

Dear Dee:
I really like this boy in my class. Last year, we were good friends. This year he does not talk to me. I like him and I don't think he likes me back.

This is just messing with my head because at the school dance, he slow danced with me. I really want him to like me. I can not get this out of my head and I can NOT handle this myself.

This happens. Unfortunately, tastes/types change when we're just discovering the dating game. Someone we like today, we don't like tomorrow.

What you can't do is obsess over this guy and his very wishy-washy behavior. Obviously your friendship didn't mean as much to him as it did to you ... and I am sorry for that. It's up to you to pick yourself up and concentrate on other things. Don't let this guy mess with your head.

He slow-danced with you, but he doesn't really talk to you ... he's sending mixed signals and you don't need that. So play it cool. Don't let him think he's calling all the shots. He needs to know his games aren't working on you.

When you feel your thoughts drift to him, find things to do to keep yourself busy. Do chores, homework, whatever - get your mind off of him. Help your parents, visit friends or head to the movies or the mall. Just stop dwelling. Remember, you only want to be with a guy who is really interested in you and knows how to treat you right. And right now, this guy doesn't seem to know what he wants and it's driving you crazy.

Now it's up to you to take a step back and decide if you really want a guy dictating your emotions like this. I'd wager the answer is ‘no'. So do your best to get a grip and remember YOU call the shots.