Pressured To Have Sex ...

Dear Dee:
I have been pressured many times to have sex. I keep telling my partner ‘no'. But, she gets really mad. Guys are usually the ones wanting sex but, I just want to take it slow. What should I do?

You should keep doing what you're doing! Stick to your guns and take things slowly. Having sex is a huge step and is best saved for when someone is in a committed relationship and can fully understand what it means.

You said you get ‘pressured' about having sex from your girlfriend. Well, just like I tell girls when saying the same thing about their boyfriends, you need to let her know that ‘no' means ‘no' and it's not up for debate.

Badgering you about it won't change your mind and will only, in fact, make you doubt her respect for you and your feelings. Good, strong, healthy relationships aren't about pressuring each other into doing things we're not ready for. And if she continues to take this tact, you should show her the door.

It's just not right for anyone to pester you when you've taken a stand on an issue such as sex. Your decision to wait is your decision. And the discussion should stop there ...