Gave Her a Poem: Um, Can I Take It Back?

Dear Dee:
I am a guy who was totally stupid and gave a poem to a girl. I did it so she wouldn't know who it was from. I couldn't help myself; it was kind of a cupid's arrow kind of thing. Now I don't know how to tell her it was from me. I am afraid of her reaction. Do you have any advice for me?

You're not stupid! Really, you're not. But now, you find yourself in the position of wanting her to know what you didn't want her to know, so you can find out what she thinks of you (that's right, right?).

I think the kicker is this: you're not interested in finding out what she thought of the poem; you're really interested in finding out what she thinks of you and whether or not she's interested in you.

So you could go about this a few ways: The first being just ask her out and forget about the poem. If you two hit it off, eventually if you want to you could tell her, but that's up to you. Let her get to know you for who you are and later, if the romantic side of you shows itself, the time might be right to tell her. But seriously ... the relationship is about you, not the poem.

The second thing you could do is just tell her you were the guy who wrote her the poem and see how she reacts. I am not so sure about doing this. I think it would be better to find out how she feels and reveal the poetry thing at a later time.

But hey, it's your choice ... I'm just here to make suggestions.