Biggest Problem: MY SISTER!

Dear Dee:

My biggest problem is with my sister. She and I fight about everything. We never get along. Sometimes we won't talk for days. I try to make things right with her but she never seems to want to make them right with me.My question is: How do I get my sister to see that I love her and I want a relationship with her? I want to be able to talk to her about everything/anything. I hope you can help me on this.

I wish I knew how far apart you two are in age! That would really, really help me out. But since I don't, let's work under the assumption you're only a few years apart, K?

I think jealousy is one of the major contributors to fighting between sisters ... One might have the hot boyfriend, the looks, the great body, while the other feels not so superior.

Are there things about YOU your sister could feel jealous over? Also, maybe there are things you don't even know about going on in your sister's life that are causing her to pull away from you and fight with you -- peer pressure, problems at school? You just never know what might be going on with her.

Know that most sibling riffs work themselves out when the sibs get older. And you'll find that while you fought like cats and dogs growing up, when you're adults, you'll depend on each other and be the best of friends. Living together, sharing stuff and being compared to each other all the time isn't easy on siblings and it can definitely cause a riff.

Just be patient with your sis, give her some space and when the time is right, talk to her.
I know this to be the case with me and my brother -- heck, he even gave me a concussion once (we were fighting and he started banging my head against the kitchen cabinet ... OUCH!) We fought constantly, but it's all good now. It will be for you, too.