Telling Grandma the Truth About My Sexuality

Dear Dee:
I am gay and I didn't want my mom to find out. Well she did and now she knows that I am a lesbian.
Well it's not as bad as I thought it would be but I live with my grandmother and I'm afraid if she finds out then she'll kick me out. How can I keep my mother from telling her? I hate hiding who I am because I'm not ashamed. But it's like I have to choose between my life and my lifestyle. Any suggestions?

It's great you were able to talk to your mom about this and find her to be accepting of who you are. Does she have any insight into how your grandmother would react?

This is really, really tough because you shouldn't have to suppress who you are under any circumstances - especially to family. They're supposed to be the ones who accept us just as we are - no matter what.

Of course I don't know your grandmother, but I would really like to think she would also be accepting - even if she didn't approve. That's the thing: Family doesn't have to agree with all of our choices, but we ask that they support us. Is there any chance for her support?

Continue to talk to your mom and voice your concerns to her regarding your grandmother. Ask her to please not say anything, as you want to tell her when YOU'RE ready and you want to figure out best how to approach it.

I am sorry I can't be of more help here. It is a very difficult situation. But go with your gut. And remember to stay true to yourself.